Again – Chapter 31 – JohnA Passaro
What is a friend?
A single soul dwelling in two bodies.
“Hey, thanks for sticking up for me back there. That was really nice of you to do that,” Bill Otranto said to me as we were walking out of Mrs. Knoepfler’s class back in 1979.
“No problem, Bill. Those kids shouldn’t have treated you like that,” I said as I walked quickly to wrestling practice.
“Can I be your friend?” Bill asked me.
I looked at him with the look that said, “I didn’t know you needed permission to be someone’s friend?”
Bill misinterpreted the look.
“No, really, I want to be your friend.”
“What do I have to do to be your friend?”
I got the sense that Bill just wouldn’t take the traditional silent approach to become friends and needed something concrete to actually initiate our friendship, so I flippantly said, “Write “Do It Up Otrants” 1000x and give it to me by tomorrow, and then we can be friends.”
“Ok, you got it.”
After practice that night, Bill was the first one out the door. I remember seeing him running through a field of six inches of snow to get home so he could start writing.
By the next day, I had forgotten about the whole thing.
So, as I was putting on my third pair of sweats, getting ready for wrestling practice, Bill drops this forty-page stapled document on the bench where I was sitting.
“We are friends now, right?”
“You are crazy man. I wasn’t being serious when I told you to write that,” was my reaction.
“No, No, you said that if I wrote “Do It Up Otrants!” 1000x, we would be friends. I did it, so now we are friends. You can’t go back on your word.”
“Bill, I considered you a friend way before you wrote ‘Do It Up Otrants 1000x’”
And that is how my friendship with Billy Otranto began some thirty-five years ago.
Not only was Bill and I friend’s we were teammates.
Not only were we teammates, we were workout partners.
Not only were we workout partners, we were part of something that was bigger than both of us.
Something that both he and I were proud to be part of.
Bill and I were part of the resurrection of the William Floyd Wrestling Program back in the late 1970′s, early 1980′s.
At the start of my wrestling career, as a 6th and 7th grader, I remember attending William Floyd’s high school wrestling matches.
I remember being amazed.
Not in a good way.
I remember William Floyd being shut out match after match.
Not only were they shut out, but also in one match I remember watching, not one William Floyd Wrestler actually scored a point, in any match.
A few things happened over the next few years.
Dan Nolan, who I consider a dynamic coach, took over the program and he taught us how to believe.
He taught us how to think,
“Why not us?”
“Why shouldn’t we win?”
“We deserve to win just as much as anyone else.”
By the time I got into the 9th grade in 1979, the team was winning.
Not only were we winning, we also got a couple of big wins, and we started to be recognized.
As a team.
In 1981 William Floyd won the Class “C” Championship.
In 1982 we won the Class “B” Championship.
Pride was a new emotion for all of us.
I remember Coach Nolan getting us green and yellow mesh shirts to celebrate our Championship.
To be part of the ride from total obscurity to winning the Suffolk County Team Championship, no matter what class, was one of the most rewarding feelings I ever had as an athlete.
To this day, I have a special bond with every teammate who shared that experience through those building years.
But none as close as the one I have with Bill.
We may not see each other as much as we should, but we would be there for one another in a second’s notice.
And we have been…
I for him, and him for I.
A few years ago, while I was attending his housewarming party, Bill took me downstairs to show me his basement which was a cross between a wrestling room and a gym.
As he was showing me around, my eyes become fixated on a case hanging on the wall.
Inside the case was a yellow and green shirt.
Not just any shirt.
The shirt we received to celebrate our 1982 Class C Wrestling Championship.
That was in 2010, 28 years after we accomplished a feat that we were really proud of.
“I can’t believe you still have that shirt,” I remember saying to Bill in astonishment.
“That has to be almost 30 years old. I bet it’s the only one still left.”
I am not a rich man, but I offered Bill $500 on the spot for it.
He knew I was serious.
He said he would never give up that shirt for any amount of money; it just meant too much to him.
I offered again.
He stood firm.
I quickly joked that he better install an alarm system in his house, because I was coming to get it when he wasn’t home.
That shirt meant so much to him.
In 2010 Maverick was just becoming good, but far from State Champ material, so Bill felt safe saying to me, “I will give you this shirt when Maverick wins the States.”
February 24th, 2014
Today, after spending the last eight days and nights in the hospital with Jess, BettyJane and I are finally home.
This stay, although it was shorter in length, was a much harder stay than normal.
It was a very draining stay.
Instead of being in the ICU as she usually is, Jess was roomed in the general population of the hospital.
It was a stay that included less attention, more beeps and buzzers going ignored, more chaos and less opportunity to be still.
It was a stay that almost made me cynical.
It was a stay when I felt my attitude and approach on life-changing, and not for the better.
Even though I felt these slight changes coming on, I could not do anything about them.
I really needed something to get me back on track.
As is the norm when I get home from the hospital, there was a ton of mail waiting for me.
As I sorted through the mail, mostly of items I did not want to open, there was one package that caught my eye.
It was addressed to me, by Bill Otranto.
I quickly opened the package.
It was the shirt.
32 years old, as fragile as can be, with rips at almost every seam.
I picked it up.
There was a note attached.
The note read,
“How’s this for an act of kindness.
No strings attached.
Your boys have done great.
I’m very proud of them. “
With the P.S. taking a jab about the difference in my weight since 1983.
I couldn’t have received a more meaningful gift, from anyone, in my life.
You see, wrestling is all about sacrifice.
It’s about giving up something you truly value, to hopefully get something that you value even more.
Bill gave up one of his most prized possessions in return for my happiness, friendship and something that he valued more.
It seems, in the end, that I was the lucky one the day Bill and I became friends.
A good friend will give you the shirt off of his back, but a great one will give you the shirt off his wall.
“You did it up, Otrants!”
I thank you 1,000x.
It was a gift that couldn’t have come at a more needed time.