“WRESTLING RULES FOR LIFE”
Wrestling Rules for Life
I never won a National Championship.
I have never been an All-American.
I never won a State Championship or even a Sectional Championship.
Heck, I don’t even have cauliflower ear.
Not even on one ear.
But 36 years after wrestling my last match I still consider myself a wrestler.
That is because wrestling to me is more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.
For the longest time, 26 years to be exact, I wanted nothing to do with the sport as I felt the sport took everything I had and gave me back nothing in return.
I pledged I would never let my kids wrestle as I never wanted them to experience the pain that I did from this sport.
But something brought me back.
And my kids did wrestle.
And 26 years after leaving the sport I would come to realize what this sport has given back to me in my life.
When I needed it the most.
It taught me how to fight against unbearable adversity.
To have an unbreakable will.
And to be delusionally optimistic, among many other things.
I’ve experienced this sport from every angle.
I was a wrestler myself for six years.
I’ve been a father of a wrestler for ten years.
I’ve been a father of a wrestling coach for three years.
I’ve been a coach all my life.
And I will forever be a fan of this sport.
Looking back over my time in this sport, it is clear to me that there are two types of former wrestlers.
Wrestlers who successfully bridged into life by applying the discipline and principles they learned on the mat, and those wrestlers who hadn’t.
I noticed that it didn’t matter what a wrestler’s accolades were, each type of former wrestler existed at every level of success or non-success in the sport.
I am amazed at the disparity of the quality of life between the wrestlers who had applied the principals they lived on the mat and those who didn’t.
The wrestlers who didn’t never used their resources to propel them into life to be able to handle the adversities life would throw at them.
They seemed to be beaten by the exact principles wrestling taught.
How ironic, the very people who lived the principles on the mat didn’t apply them off the mat.
I have been blessed with the understanding that wrestling is much more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.
That has been invaluable to my life.
It has made such a difference in the quality of my life.
So much so, that I feel compelled to share the principles that I’ve learned.
My hope is that these principles will ring true to wrestlers who need them the most.
Champions who need help in life.
My other hope is to bring homage to a sport that when all the accounting is complete has given to me more than I gave to it.
And I gave it everything I had.
And in return, it gave me everything that I am.
I am a wrestler.
I’ve lived for 6 years on the mat.
And a lifetime off the mat.
“Wrestling Rules For Life” are the principles that have been so valuable to me.
Here are the
- Don’t Beat Yourself
- Dream Big Dreams
- Believe Before
- Be Yourself
- Nobody Can Want It More for You Than You Want It for Yourself
- The Odds Should Be Respected but Not Believed
- Be Delusionally Optimistic
- Have the And 1 Attitude
- Everything Matters
- Live In the Zone
- Surround Yourself with Great People with Like-Minded Goals
- Feed the Good
- Pick the Right Partner
- Iron Sharpens Iron
- Make Your Teammates Better
- Be Coachable
- Earned Not Given
- Hard Work Wins
- Nobody Outworks You
- Your Confidence Will be In Direct Proportion to Your Preparedness
- 99% Effort Is Not Enough
- You Can’t Fool Yourself
- Give Everything or Get Nothing
- Get 1% Better Every Day
- Do Your Everyday’s Every Day
- Push Beyond Your Limits Daily
- Be the Guy Who Sets the Bar
- Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere
- Impose Your Will
- Never Bet Against an Underdog Who Has the Heart of a Champion
- Prioritize or Agonize
- Always Choose the Harder Option
- Weigh Everything
- Delay Gratification
- Always Move Forward
- You Win, or You Learn
- Take Complete and Absolute Ownership
- Don’t Make the Same Mistake Twice
- Blame Is a Losers Game
- Figure It Out
- Trust Yourself
- Make Adjustments, Not Excuses
- Deep in the Difficult You Will Find the Best Version of Yourself
- You’ve Got to Love the Taste of Blood
- Find A Way
- Be at Your Best When You Feel Your Worst
- Be Able to do More with Less
- Be Unwilling to Quit
- Be Unbreakable
- Put Your Toe on the Line, and You Fight Like Hell
- Be the First One Back to the Circle
- Improve Your Position
- Score the Next 2 Points
- You Will Not Always Get Paid for Your Work, Work Hard Anyway
- Don’t Let Defeat be Victorious
- Be Incapable of Discouragement
- You’ve Got to Get Through the Suck
- Always Believe
- Stay the Course
- Trust in One Thing, The Power of Your Own Will
- When You Can’t Do Anymore, You Still Have More to Give
- Never Quit. Never, Means Not Ever
- There Is an Open Circle
- It Is Going to Take More Than One Effort
- Natural Talent Without Work, Time and Grit Will Go Unfulfilled
- Don’t Let One Loss Beat You Twice
- It Has to Hurt
- Pain Is Your Greatest Teacher
- Pain Endured is Strength Stored
- Never Lose the Bruises from Your Greatest Loss
- Always Be In Relentless Pursuit of Excellence
- It Is Simple But Not Easy
- Don’t Let Victory Defeat You
- Be Humble or Be Ready to be Humbled
- Respect the Sport, and the Sport Will Respect You
- Don’t Take the Bait
- Your Nights Must Be Friends with Your Days
- The Universe Is Watching When No One is There
- Live Your Life in a Way So People Root for Your Success
- There is No Guarantee of Success
- You Don’t Get What You Deserve. You Only Get What You Earn
- Be More Proud Than Disappointed
- Trust in the Process
- Trust in the Universe It Knows What It Is Doing
- The Reward You Seek May Not be the Reward You Receive
- Become the Best Version of Yourself
- Have Great Balance
- Your Journey Is Specifically Designed for You