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Book is expected to be released August 2019


Wrestling Rules for Life

I never won a National Championship.

I have never been an All-American.

I never won a State Championship or even a Sectional Championship.

Heck, I don’t even have cauliflower ear.

Not even on one ear.

But 36 years after wrestling my last match I still consider myself a wrestler.

That is because wrestling to me is more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.

For the longest time, 26 years to be exact, I wanted nothing to do with the sport as I felt the sport took everything I had and gave me back nothing in return.

I pledged I would never let my kids wrestle as I never wanted them to experience the pain that I did from this sport.

But something brought me back.

And my kids did wrestle.

And 26 years after leaving the sport I would come to realize what this sport has given back to me in my life.

When I needed it the most.

It taught me how to fight against unbearable adversity.

To have an unbreakable will.

And to be delusionally optimistic, among many other things.

I’ve experienced this sport from every angle.

I was a wrestler myself for six years.

I’ve been a father of a wrestler for ten years.

I’ve been a father of a wrestling coach for three years.

I’ve been a coach all my life.

And I will forever be a fan of this sport.

Looking back over my time in this sport, it is clear to me that there are two types of former wrestlers.

Wrestlers who successfully bridged into life by applying the discipline and principles they learned on the mat, and those wrestlers who hadn’t.

I noticed that it didn’t matter what a wrestler’s accolades were, each type of former wrestler existed at every level of success or non-success in the sport.

I am amazed at the disparity of the quality of life between the wrestlers who had applied the principals they lived on the mat and those who didn’t.

The wrestlers who didn’t never used their resources to propel them into life to be able to handle the adversities life would throw at them.

They seemed to be beaten by the exact principles wrestling taught.

How ironic, the very people who lived the principles on the mat didn’t apply them off the mat.

I have been blessed with the understanding that wrestling is much more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.

That has been invaluable to my life.

It has made such a difference in the quality of my life.

So much so, that I feel compelled to share the principles that I’ve learned.

My hope is that these principles will ring true to wrestlers who need them the most.

Champions who need help in life.

My other hope is to bring homage to a sport that when all the accounting is complete has given to me more than I gave to it.

And I gave it everything I had.

And in return, it gave me everything that I am.

I am a wrestler.

I’ve lived 6 years on the mat.

And a lifetime off the mat.

“Wrestling Rules For Life” are the principles that have been so valuable to me.


Here are the

Wrestling Rules for Life

1. Don’t Beat Yourself

2. Dream Big

3. Believe Before

4. Be Yourself

5. Nobody Can Want It More for You Than You Want It for Yourself

6. The Odds Should Be Respected but Not Believed

7. Be Delusionally Optimistic

8. Have the And 1 Attitude

9. Always Be in Relentless Pursuit of Excellence

10. It is Simple but Not Easy

11. Everything Matters

12. Prioritize or Agonize

13. Always Choose the Harder Option

14. Weigh Everything

15. Delay Gratification

16. Live in the Zone

17. Surround Yourself with Great People with Like-Minded Goals

18. Feed the Good

19. Pick the Right Partner

20. Iron Sharpens Iron

21. Make Your Teammates Better

22. Be Coachable

23. Earned Not Given

24.Hard Work Wins

25. Nobody Outworks You

26. Your Confidence Will be In Direct Proportion to Your Preparedness

27. 99% Effort Is Not Enough

28. You Can’t Fool Yourself

29. Give Everything or Get Nothing

30. Get 1% Better Every Day

31. Push Beyond Your Limits Daily

32. Be the Guy Who Sets the Bar

33. Dominate

34. Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere

35. Impose Your Will

36. Never Bet Against an Underdog Who Has the Heart of a Champion

37. It is Better to be The Hunter Than the Hunted

38. Always Move Forward

39. You Win or You Learn

40. Take Complete and Absolute Ownership

41. Don’t Make the Same Mistake Twice

42. Blame Is a Losers Game

43. Figure It Out

44. Trust Yourself

45. Make Adjustments Not Excuses

46. Deep in the Difficult You Will Find the Best Version of Yourself

47. You’ve Got to Love the Taste of Blood

48. Find A Way

49. Be at Your Best When You Feel Your Worst

50. Put Your Toe on the Line and You Fight Like Hell

51. Be the First One Back to the Circle

52. Improve Your Position

53. Score the Next Points

54. Be Unbreakable

55. Be Able to do More with Less

56. You Will Not Always Get Paid for Your Work, Work Hard Anyway

57. Don’t Let Defeat be Victorious

58. Be Incapable of Discouragement

59. You’ve Got to Get Through the Suck

60. Always Believe

61. Stay the Course

62. Trust In One Thing, The Power of Your Own Will

63. When You Can’t Do Anymore You Still Have More to Give

64. Never Quit. Never, Means Not Ever

65. There Is an Open Circle

66. It Is Going to Take More Than One Effort

67. Talent Without Grit Will Go Unfulfilled

68. Don’t Let One Loss Beat You Twice

69. Pain Is Your Greatest Teacher

70. Pain Endured is Strength Stored

71. Train to Bear the Unbearable

72. Never Lose the Bruises from Your Greatest Loss

73. Don’t Let Victory Defeat You

74. Be Humble or Be Ready to be Humbled

75. Respect the Sport and the Sport Will Respect You

76. Don’t Take the Bait

77. Your Nights Must Be Friends with Your Days

78. The Universe Is Watching When No One is There

79. Live Your Life in a Way So People Root for Your Success

80. There is No Guarantee of Success

81. You Don’t Get What You Deserve, You Only Get What You Earn

82. Be More Proud Than Disappointed

83. Trust in the Process

84. Trust in the Universe It Knows What It Is Doing

85. The Reward You Seek May Not be the Reward You Receive

86. Become the Best Version of You

87. Have Great Balance

88. Your Journey Is Specifically Designed for You

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To be released May 2019

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Book is expected to be released August 2019

8 replies »

  1. My husband is a high school wrestling coach and was hoping to give his seniors Wrestling Rules for Life as a gift at their dinner. March 14 is the dinner, is there anyway to get 5 copies by then?


    • Lisa, the book is scheduled to be released on March 15th. Add shipping time and the overlap is a few days off. If you would like I can send it directly to each wrestler as soon as it becomes available. They should receive it with a week of the dinner.


  2. I preordered your book back in February and have yet to receive the ebook copy. Is that version going to be released the same date as the hard copy?


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