“WRESTLING RULES FOR LIFE”
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Wrestling Rules for Life
I never won a National Championship.
I have never been an All-American.
I never won a State Championship or even a Sectional Championship.
Heck, I don’t even have cauliflower ear.
Not even on one ear.
But 36 years after wrestling my last match I still consider myself a wrestler.
That is because wrestling to me is more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.
For the longest time, 26 years to be exact, I wanted nothing to do with the sport as I felt the sport took everything I had and gave me back nothing in return.
I pledged I would never let my kids wrestle as I never wanted them to experience the pain that I did from this sport.
But something brought me back.
And my kids did wrestle.
And 26 years after leaving the sport I would come to realize what this sport has given back to me in my life.
When I needed it the most.
It taught me how to fight against unbearable adversity.
To have an unbreakable will.
And to be delusionally optimistic, among many other things.
I’ve experienced this sport from every angle.
I was a wrestler myself for six years.
I’ve been a father of a wrestler for ten years.
I’ve been a father of a wrestling coach for three years.
I’ve been a coach all my life.
And I will forever be a fan of this sport.
Looking back over my time in this sport, it is clear to me that there are two types of former wrestlers.
Wrestlers who successfully bridged into life by applying the discipline and principles they learned on the mat, and those wrestlers who hadn’t.
I noticed that it didn’t matter what a wrestler’s accolades were, each type of former wrestler existed at every level of success or non-success in the sport.
I am amazed at the disparity of the quality of life between the wrestlers who had applied the principals they lived on the mat and those who didn’t.
The wrestlers who didn’t never used their resources to propel them into life to be able to handle the adversities life would throw at them.
They seemed to be beaten by the exact principles wrestling taught.
How ironic, the very people who lived the principles on the mat didn’t apply them off the mat.
I have been blessed with the understanding that wrestling is much more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.
That has been invaluable to my life.
It has made such a difference in the quality of my life.
So much so, that I feel compelled to share the principles that I’ve learned.
My hope is that these principles will ring true to wrestlers who need them the most.
Champions who need help in life.
My other hope is to bring homage to a sport that when all the accounting is complete has given to me more than I gave to it.
And I gave it everything I had.
And in return, it gave me everything that I am.
I am a wrestler.
I’ve lived 6 years on the mat.
And a lifetime off the mat.
“Wrestling Rules For Life” are the principles that have been so valuable to me.
Here are the
1. Don’t Beat Yourself
2. Dream Big
3. Believe Before
4. Be Yourself
5. Nobody Can Want It More for You Than You Want It for Yourself
6. The Odds Should Be Respected but Not Believed
7. Be Delusionally Optimistic
8. Have the And 1 Attitude
9. Always Be in Relentless Pursuit of Excellence
10. It is Simple but Not Easy
11. Everything Matters
12. Prioritize or Agonize
13. Always Choose the Harder Option
14. Weigh Everything
15. Delay Gratification
16. Live in the Zone
17. Surround Yourself with Great People with Like-Minded Goals
18. Feed the Good
19. Pick the Right Partner
20. Iron Sharpens Iron
21. Make Your Teammates Better
22. Be Coachable
23. Earned Not Given
24.Hard Work Wins
25. Nobody Outworks You
26. Your Confidence Will be In Direct Proportion to Your Preparedness
27. 99% Effort Is Not Enough
28. You Can’t Fool Yourself
29. Give Everything or Get Nothing
30. Get 1% Better Every Day
31. Push Beyond Your Limits Daily
32. Be the Guy Who Sets the Bar
34. Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere
35. Impose Your Will
36. Never Bet Against an Underdog Who Has the Heart of a Champion
37. It is Better to be The Hunter Than the Hunted
38. Always Move Forward
39. You Win or You Learn
40. Take Complete and Absolute Ownership
41. Don’t Make the Same Mistake Twice
42. Blame Is a Losers Game
43. Figure It Out
44. Trust Yourself
45. Make Adjustments Not Excuses
46. Deep in the Difficult You Will Find the Best Version of Yourself
47. You’ve Got to Love the Taste of Blood
48. Find A Way
49. Be at Your Best When You Feel Your Worst
50. Put Your Toe on the Line and You Fight Like Hell
51. Be the First One Back to the Circle
52. Improve Your Position
53. Score the Next Points
54. Be Unbreakable
55. Be Able to do More with Less
56. You Will Not Always Get Paid for Your Work, Work Hard Anyway
57. Don’t Let Defeat be Victorious
58. Be Incapable of Discouragement
59. You’ve Got to Get Through the Suck
60. Always Believe
61. Stay the Course
62. Trust In One Thing, The Power of Your Own Will
63. When You Can’t Do Anymore You Still Have More to Give
64. Never Quit. Never, Means Not Ever
65. There Is an Open Circle
66. It Is Going to Take More Than One Effort
67. Talent Without Grit Will Go Unfulfilled
68. Don’t Let One Loss Beat You Twice
69. Pain Is Your Greatest Teacher
70. Pain Endured is Strength Stored
71. Train to Bear the Unbearable
72. Never Lose the Bruises from Your Greatest Loss
73. Don’t Let Victory Defeat You
74. Be Humble or Be Ready to be Humbled
75. Respect the Sport and the Sport Will Respect You
76. Don’t Take the Bait
77. Your Nights Must Be Friends with Your Days
78. The Universe Is Watching When No One is There
79. Live Your Life in a Way So People Root for Your Success
80. There is No Guarantee of Success
81. You Don’t Get What You Deserve, You Only Get What You Earn
82. Be More Proud Than Disappointed
83. Trust in the Process
84. Trust in the Universe It Knows What It Is Doing
85. The Reward You Seek May Not be the Reward You Receive
86. Become the Best Version of You
87. Have Great Balance
88. Your Journey Is Specifically Designed for You